This business is all about change and sometimes it is hard for clients and therapists alike to see what changes are required.
However today I was reminded of a story of a little girl excitedly telling her mum she had found a lime green hairy caterpillar in the garden. Her mum was concerned that it was making it’s way through the leaves of her plants and wanted to get rid of it.
But if you can think as a child…
But the little girl, in all her childlike wisdom, informed her mum that the caterpillar was merely training to change into a butterfly and that the World could always do with another butterfly.
My sentiments exactly.
Do YOU agree?
You know I was making a salad the other night so I laid all my ingredients out on the worktop – crisp iceberg lettuce, luscious red tomatoes, sweet yellow, orange and red peppers, long spring onions, purple red onions and a large Spanish onion; a hard boiled egg, a block of mature Irish cheddar cheese, a stick of celery, a pink lady apple and a handful of walnuts.
I carefully washed all the fruit and vegetables under the running tap the ice cold water making my fingers go numb. I then roughly tore up the lettuce, cracking and ripping every leaf. I cut up the tomatoes into quarters and finely chopped the peppers and onions. My eyes wept as I did so. I quickly chopped the celery, peeled and cored the apple then sliced it as was the hard boiled egg, Finally the cheese was cubed and the walnuts crushed.
I got my large salad bowl from the cupboard above my head and throw all the prepared ingredients into the bowl. A pinch of salt and black pepper and a sprinkle of balsamic vinegar and extra virgin olive oil were poured over the salad and then all the ingredients were gently tossed and mixed around the bowl. How tempting it looked all those fresh vibrant colours, reds, yellows, orange, green, white and brown. All those fragrances and aromas, woody and sweet, young and old wafting into the air.
Then I looked closely at the salad and thought isn’t it funny that I would gladly choose any of the ingredients by themselves yet together how better they become working together to complement each other in their own unique way.
Unique as despite my best efforts of tossing them high into the sky and mixing them up in and around the bowl they still remained the same –still a piece of lettuce, tomato, pepper, onion, egg, cheese, celery, apple and nut. Yes they had a bit of seasoning and dressing but that is like a uniform that could be removed for beneath this they continued to be themselves providing the flavour and aroma they always did but now even better in so many ways.
I would just like to share my book review I wrote for my association. It’s good to share.
Mindfulness and Hypnosis –The Power of Suggestion to Transform Experience
Author: Michael D. Yapko, PhD Published by: W.W.Norton&Company Ltd. In 2011
Dr Yapko has written an intriguing account where he endeavours to bridge the gap between guided mindfulness meditation (GMM) and clinical hypnosis. Suggesting that despite the difference of backgrounds, they are essentially two halves of the same walnut drawing on shared experiential and suggestion-based approaches with focussed attention paramount to both GMM and hypnosis.
However whereas GMM has found considerable support and recognition in health and mental wellbeing settings (perhaps due to both its original Buddhist roots and clinical research highlighting its effectiveness); clinical hypnosis struggles to attain a similar standing as it still suffers from both the historic and modern sham practitioners and populist misconceptions of stage and entertainment shows.
Nonetheless, Yapko goes to considerable length to dissect and analyse GMM transcripts to highlight the hypnosis content, such as direct and indirect suggestions. Although his comparative account may be somewhat reductionist to the meditation process implying it is a form of hypnosis and perhaps misses the spiritual point and unique values of meditation to the individual.
Despite this Yapko makes a valid point that the label is not what is important, it is the process and outcome that counts. Therefore, through his well-structured composition, drawing on both scientific evidence and clinical judgement, Yapko provides the reader an opportunity to utilise different strategies to engage with clients and broaden both clinician and client resources towards greater attunement.
On a personal note, I found the book interesting, as I required some information about GMM to help me deliver mindfulness sessions in CUH Temple Street. I wanted to deliver these sessions with a hypnotic content and this book certainly helped justify my approach to the sessions highlighting the common ground hypnosis and GMM share. It also provided me with a plethora of excellent reference sources, which have been useful in expanding my knowledge of GMM and in the delivery of the hypnotic mindfulness sessions.
I would certainly recommend this book as an invaluable addition to any therapist’s library or indeed to anyone with an interest in GMM / Hypnosis.
I was helping someone who had difficulty sleeping and I had to admit I was stumped. I had tried various interventions with them – Hypnosis, mindfulness, meditation, CBT, relaxing music, warm baths, warm milk , cold milk , no milk…
I was on the verge of insomnia myself trying to resolve it when I happened to mention the issue to a colleague, who suggested I ask my client if they had cold feet. Why? Well apparently he had suffered insomnia for years and one night he was lying in bed and forgot to take his socks off and had the best sleep in ages.
Now whether this is a coincidence or a correlation I’m not sure but it worked for my client (who happened to be a qualified physician) and guess what it works for me too.
Try it, it might just be what you are missing. Sweet dreams zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Without meaning we wither and die it is truly the psychological oxygen.
How often do we project our own failings onto others-
our accusations are actually our confessions